September 26, 2011 at 12:58pm
The Lakai Rick Howard (RH) 2011 (by lakaiweb)
September 1, 2011 at 3:04am
if we are all still learning about ourselves, how can anyone be an expert?
I have always had a hard time with experts when it comes to my children. I am open and inquisitive yet, I find it hard to imagine a stranger truely knowing what is best for my kids. As I parent I have needed guidence outside of my head and sounding boards to reflect on descions that will nuture the uniqueness of each of my kids. Looking for mentors who have gone before me. Looking for experience. Possibly looking for the experienced me in the pages of thoughtful manifestos. That being said, I question that there is a pre-concieved map that will lead all children towards a happy and healthy life. I am aware I am limited to my own experiences, but I am also freed by my experiences with the will to learn from them. I believe we all have our own path. Who am I to say what will soften the edges or sharpen the tools of another person, including my children? The bobbles and weaves feel different for each of us, no? The triumpuhs and victories indiviulized. I parent with mistakes, with fraility and contradictions. My will to be honest with myself is my hope to be able to listen to the cues of these special beings that I am graced to guide and honor. In my 39 years I have witnessed some amazing paradoxes of parenting styles that leave the mystery alive and well as to what works for one might not work for another. As well as the kids who had it ‘all’ and feel empty, while the kids who were negelected were able find an inner unbreakable strentgh. And I hope to never get trapped into thinking of the answers before the individual. I envision my love for my kids will be an anchor that will never have to be questioned. I know I am a work in progress, it is that humaness that makes us “our” family.
